Consider long-time anti-gay activist Louis Marinelli. Last year he was the person behind the Summer for Marriage Tour sponsored by the National Organization for Marriage, literally driving the bus for a series of protests against gay marriage. But sometime during the tour, Marinelli actually started talking to some of the gay people he was supposed to hate. And it changed his world:
I really came to understand that gays and lesbians were just real people who wanted to live real lives and be treated equally as opposed to, for example, wanting to destroy American culture. No, they didn’t want to destroy American culture, they wanted to openly particulate in it.
He now supports full civil marriage equality, saying “The constitution calls for nothing less.”
It isn’t the destination that’s important, it’s the journey.
UPDATE: Despite pretending to be nice to Marinelli, behind the scenes the National Organization for Marriage is threatening to sue him unless he removes from his website the articles he wrote about NOM. Ironically, suing Marinelli would probably do more damage to NOM itself than it could do to Marinelli.