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The Dark Cloud Inside the Silver Lining?

The article “Please Don’t Make Me Get Gay Married” is not about gays forcing their agenda on straight people. In fact, quite the opposite. It raises a down side to the recent Supreme Court decision legalizing same sex marriage everywhere. It is a problem straight people have had to put up with for years, but will now apply to same sex couples as well.

The problem is, not all couples want to get married. In the past, only straight couples were subject to the incessant questions. Like “When are you going to get married?”, “Wouldn’t it make your parents happy?”, even “Are you planning on having kids?”.

Gays were automatically exempt from these questions when gay marriage was illegal. Even after some states made it legal, gay couples could use the excuse that it wasn’t legal everywhere, so it would complicate things and may even offend some people.

But no more. Like straights, gay couples now have the choice of whether to get married, and at least some of them will decide they don’t want to.

The author of the article, a gay man in a committed relationship, felt compelled to post to Facebook “Christian and I are happy to announce that with today’s historic decision we have decided to continue being legally unmarried forever.” A straight friend quickly replied “It brings a tear to my eye that you’ll now finally have the right to constantly defend the decision not to get married, just like straight couples have been able to do for forever.”

Around ten years ago, filmmaker John Waters said in a talk “Back when I was young the best thing about being gay was that you didn’t have to get married, have kids, or serve in the military. Now we’re fighting for all three.”

Be careful what you ask for. You might just get it!


One Comment

  1. ralph wrote:

    Like I’ve always said, gay people should have the right to be just as miserable as the rest of us.

    Or as Bill Maher, I think, once put it, “We’ve always had same sex marriage. Every week, it’s always the the same sex!”

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